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The Resolution Solution
posted Jan. 24, 2005
Here we are well into the first
month of the year. How many, I wonder, have made resolutions
and kept them – or broken them already? Then I wonder what could end this seemingly
endless dilemma that repeats itself year after year?
As each New Year rolls its way around, people look back at what they’ve
done, and what they’d like to do.
They may have some fear of the future. They may have some regrets from the past,
or anger, or sadness, or any of the spectrum of emotions that their
chosen and un-chosen paths may create.
They may have dreams of what they’d like their lives to be, and
they may resolve to claim all or part of that.
Sadly, though, many of those dreams and well intentioned resolutions
Early in life, the planners of resolutions learn certain ways of believing
of their places in the world.
They unconsciously believe in these messages; and their breathing
and physical holding patterns compliment their deeply felt belief systems.
The planners may start believing in their personas so deeply that living
according to their true essences becomes unfamiliar and uncomfortable
So resolutions, as we all know, are often merely well intentioned, temporary
expressions of creative energy.
Then we regress to comfortable habits that have outlived their
We often times allow uncomfortable emotions to freeze or immobilize
us, rather than to flow through us as they were intended. An analogy of this is a boxer who gets
hit with a clean blow, and freezes with fear. This makes the fighter more likely to
be hurt further as the fighter tenses up, pulls back into the opponents
range, and receives punch after punch in its full power, being tense,
allowing the energy to flow into his/her body.
The ideal thing would be to relax (as a drunk driver) seeing
every punch coming; slipping in to cut off the power; allowing the energy
to absorb into the earth, and roll off like a rear end vehicular collision.
Best selling author and world renowned speaker John Bradshaw wrote on
this very subject. He called
emotions “energy in motion”, implying that our emotions are designed
to physically move us to be true to ourselves. He also said that one of the most tragic
things is to live your entire life not knowing yourself. Hendricks seemed to agree: “Healthy people
stand and move distinctively….They express feelings fully and congruently:
their communication matches their inner experience.” (I don’t know about you, but these descriptions
remind me of a brilliant, articulate dancer).
Then that leads to the resolution solution, which I offer to you as
a possible reality. This
could be the last resolution you’ll need for the rest of your life: Live each moment of your life true to
your heart, and you’ll never need a resolution again.
is an occupational therapy practitioner, a bodywork therapist, and a
body-centered coach who is an expert in treating pain from physical
trauma, psychosomatic disorders, and a multitude of disorders which
traditional approaches to healing do not effectively address. Much of
his work is aimed at treating the fascia or connective tissue. He is
also the developer of Connective StretchingSM,
and is currently authoring a book on Connective Stretching and Self
By all means, if you are having health concerns, consult your physician
or therapist. If you'd like more information or have questions, feel
free to contact Chad at Masterbodywork@comcast.net.
Chad Wright © 2005.